Finally, you simply conclude, “You just have to use trial and error to figure out what works as you go along.”
By the time you do figure out what works, that child is on to a new stage and you have to start the whole process over again!
Then the next child comes along, you try what worked with the first child, but this new child is different and you get different results! Argh! You aren’t sure if you should start all over again or if you were on the right track and just need to do something a little different.
Then you might conclude what most people say and believe, “Every child is different so you have to parent each one differently.”
You’re frustrated, overwhelmed, worried about what else you might have not done perfectly, what challenges lie ahead and whether you’ll know what to do then.
Then the next child comes along, you try what worked with the first child, but this new child is different and you get different results! Argh! You aren’t sure if you should start all over again or if you were on the right track and just need to do something a little different.
So you conclude what everyone else says and believes, “Every child is different so you have to parent each one differently.” You’re frustrated, overwhelmed, and worried about what else you might have not done perfectly, what challenges lie ahead, and whether you’ll know what to do then.