New, Updated, Trauma-Informed Course/Curriculum
What You'll Do: Read book chapter on your own, then attend this review + practice + discussion/problem-solving
Attend this LIVE ONLINE opportunity to meet the author and other parents and share your feedback, ideas, stories, suggestions, and questions. Each session will be recorded, but only the participants will have access to them for a limited time.
State of Ohio, Counselor, Social Worker & Marriage & Family Therapist Board Approval for up to 12 CEU's for Social Workers Approval #RSX012201.
Dates/Times: TBD.
The first pilot course has occurred and the book is being finalized. Get on the waitlist for the next live online class offering, when the book is ready.
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In past generations, there was a lack of accurate, evidence-based parenting information. “Old school” parenting involves harsh, strict parenting that today’s parents want to avoid. So, some do the opposite of what these “reverse role models” did, which is equally ineffective! Children need some boundaries and limits, structure, and guidance to learn how to be responsible and function in the real world --- in their unique authentic way.
Today's challenge is weeding through all the outdated and experience-based opinions and theories to find accurate information that’s supported by current research that shows long-term results.
Today’s most popular parenting programs, which claim to be evidence-based, teach the use of positive and negative "reinforcements" to prevent and "manage" children’s behavior. They even suggest using "old school" discipline like timeouts, restrictions, and groundings. Yet, 60+ years of research show these tactics are only quick fixes that create big problems later. Some of today’s researchers even argue it may be harmful and abusive!
When parents rely on these external motivators, children don't learn internal self-motivation, self-discipline, or positive self-esteem that develops a “growth mindset.” Parents must constantly supervise their children, motivating them through bribes and rewards, and children become people pleasers dependent on others for validation. This also doesn’t prepare children to function in the real world!
Today’s parents are also facing greater challenges than any previous generation of parents: from internet dangers to school violence to cyberbullying to an international pandemic that resulted in many children suffering developmental delays and undiagnosed trauma.
Today's world is more stressful than ever and both parents and children are showing signs of trauma --- except most people don't know that's what they are seeing, because it shows up as problematic behavior!
When children experience chronic stress, it affects their brains and bodies like trauma does. Children don’t understand how to observe and verbalize how they feel internally, so it comes out through their behavior. Many adults, including some teachers, therapists, and psychologists, don’t recognize this. So, more children are getting mental health diagnoses and put on medications.
This is a dangerous pattern that needs balancing. Parents today don’t need a completely new way of parenting. They just need to balance their approach, which is neither controlling nor accidentally rewarding bad behavior.
You know that every child is unique and needs parenting individually. This doesn't mean you need to know every parenting concept or tool in existence. You don't even need more than one parenting style for each of your kids. You just need one Balanced parenting style that is inclusive and eclectic enough to parent children from diverse family backgrounds, rules, values, and cultures.
This program guides you through a step-by-step proven parenting plan you can tailor to suit the unique needs of your child, the situation, and your family’s values and culture.
Best of all, it's easy to learn and understand because it uses simple logic. It's not hard to implement because you usually only need to make little tweaks to what you are already doing, not start all over! Best of all, you will stay calm and respond helpful in any situation, which boosts your confidence and feelings of competence.
I thought it was wonderful. --- Bert Nero, OCWTP Trainer
This has been a wealth of information… I love the added extra information and how you went about presenting it. It was nice to see what we were doing right, which feels really good. --- Samantha
I talk about you all the time and everything that you bring to the table. So, anytime I get to be around you and just to hear from you and absorb all the little nuggets, I'm just thrilled. So, thank you for allowing me to be a part of this, this has been a real blessing. --- Kristina B.
I'm probably going to be going back with my husband and watch all the videos over again. I need to dive into the book. It's been really interesting to piece it apart with how my childhood was and how I was raised, which was definitely the harder discipline. Now piecing it through to my now five-year-old.—Abbey
You are still gifted you still have a lot to share with everybody and I'm grateful that I learned about you what 13 years ago now. My last daughter got the best mommy. --- Marion Dyer, Certified Parents Toolshop® Direct Service Provider (trainer/coach) for 10+ years
The information has been great. What I think about now is, how the heck am I going to make this something that I actualize? I actually do this stuff, not just intellectualize it. --- Larry K (grandfather)
SESSION 1: The Unique Challenges Facing Today’s NeXt GenerationZ Parents
Just because something is “old” doesn’t mean it’s irrelevant or outdated.
Just because it’s “evidence-based” doesn’t mean it’s effective long-term or teaches what current research supports.
Just because it’s new or popular doesn’t mean it’s effective.
Learn which techniques are proven to be effective long-term, supported by new research, and are effective short-term in responding to today’s unique challenges.
SESSION 2: Parenting in a Post-Pandemic World Requires a Trauma-Informed Approach
Why do today's children “behave badly” and have such high rates of mental health issues?
What many parents, teachers, and therapists are doing that's causing more problems
How previous generations perceive trauma (as an excuse)
What is trauma and how does it affect children’s development and behavior
How trauma triggers get in, get activated, and can get de- or re-programmed.
SESSION 3: FOUNDATION-BUILDING TOOLBOX
Conscious Parenting Toolset
How your parenting program is set by age 6 and keeps sabotaging your good intentions with trigger buttons that cause reactions.
How to parent the way you want to, to reach your healthy parenting goals.
Parenting Style Toolset
The 5th parenting style research has found that most people (even experts) don’t know about, why it is so harmful to use, but the top “evidence-based” parenting programs are teaching it! How “Old School” and “New Age” both miss the mark.
How “child-centered” is different from “over-indulgent” parenting.
Why seeing your parents as reverse role-models and doing the opposite results in disaster!
Which parenting style lets you parent different children individually and consistently.
Using the Universal Blueprint® for Parenting Success
Follow this system like it’s the freeway of your parenting journey, so you can prevent many common problems.
When problems arise, use the UB-GPS system to identify and resolve the core issue. Then, the behavior stops not because you “managed” it, but because the child wants and knows how to behave.
Learn the “PASRR Effective Response Formula,” which the rest of the program will explore in detail. It has the the most essential tools from which to choose, with tips for using them in the most effective way.
SESSION 4: PREVENTION TOOLBOX:
Self-Esteem Toolset
Build self-esteem without creating praise junkies or egotistical self-centered children.
Foster internal motivation and a “growth mindset.”
Increase children’s immunity to peer pressure and prevent sibling rivalry.
Cooperation Toolset
Deepen children’s internal motivation while preventing power struggles or tantrums, without using bribes, stickers, or rewards.
Get children to cooperate, the first time you ask, by making and denying requests in positive ways.
Find win/win solutions that prevent power struggles.
Independence Toolset
Foster self-responsibility and self-sufficiency.
Don’t “give a fish” which causes dependency and an attitude of entitlement. Instead, teach children “how to fish,” so they not only “eat for life” but can provide and give to others!
Discover how to model “invisible” skills so children learn how to be patient, calm, not procrastinate, etc.
SESSION 5. CHILD PROBLEM TOOLBOX:
F-A-X Listening Toolset
Discover a simple three-step process that:
Helps de-escalate problems,
Allows children to express their feelings appropriately, and
Teaches them how to independently solve problems and resolve conflicts.
Sibling Toolset
Give up your referee whistle and use these tools instead.
You’ll get less competing, comparing, complaining, arguing, fighting, and tattling.
You’ll see more sharing, cooperating, respect, peace, and independent conflict resolution.
SESSION 6. PARENT PROBLEM TOOLBOX
Keep Your Cool Toolset
Create individualized stress and anger management plans for you and your children.
Get dozens of ideas for how parents and children can relieve stress and express anger appropriately, and for defusing and redirecting an angry child.
Communication Toolset
Know what to say and how to say it, to reduce miscommunications that cause unnecessary hurt feelings and conflicts.
Discover the small changes you can make that bring huge improvements in your relationships and children’s behavior.
SESSION 7. PROBLEM BEHAVIOR TOOLBOX:
PU (Problem behavior that’s Unintentional) Toolset
Understand the 5 causes of "unintentional" problem behavior.
Know why children keep doing what you've "told them a million times" not to do, but aren’t doing it on purpose.
Learn how to address or resolve each cause, so children learn to behave better.
PO Problem behavior that’s On purpose) Toolset
Understand and identify the four causes of intentional problematic behavior.
Avoid the most common reactions that cause problematic behavior to escalate or accidentally reward bad behavior.
Discover which 5-star tool you already learned is best for preventing and responding to each type.
Discipline Toolset
Dump outdated tactics that just don't work, like threats, timeouts, grounding, restrictions, and corporal punishment.
Replace them with the 5 most effective discipline tools that hold children accountable while teaching self-discipline.
Discover how to discipline without feeling regret or discomfort, being the mean “bad guy,” or punishing in ways that cause resentment, rebellion, and revenge).
SESSION 8. MAINTENANCE TOOLBOX
Family Council Toolset
Family councils enrich family relationships, improve teamwork, and help families make decisions and find win/win solutions. This Toolset shows you:
How to get started,
Formats to use at different ages, and
The skills you need to make your family councils productive and avoid common pitfalls.
The Three C’s: Consistency, handling Criticism (Using the Universal Blueprint® in Adult Relationships), and Confidence
Debunk the "Myth of Consistency" to stay on track.
Use the Universal Blueprint GPS system in your relationships with adults, by making a few small tweaks.
Step into your new-found confidence, knowing that you might not be able to prevent every problem, but you have a plan for finding an individualized solution to each one.
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