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E-book: The Parents Toolshop® (Get the ©2020 25th Anniversary Edition on Amazon!)


Ever wish children came with instructions? Well, this book tells you what you can do, how to do it, why it works, and provides a step-by-step plan for deciding which tool and approach will work best with your child in that situation based on your values, rules, and child's needs.

In past generations, there was a lack of accurate evidence-based parenting information. Today there's an overwhelming amount of parenting information, but most of it is simply an opinion and not necessarily educated or informed opinions. Even people who are called parenting experts by themselves or in the media often give information that is outdated inaccurate or ineffective. There are a lot of quick fixes that cause big-time problems later.

Today, you know that every family and child is unique, so each parenting response needs to be personalized for each child and customized to each family's values and rules. This doesn't mean you have to know every parenting concept and tool in existence, nor do you need to use more than one parenting "style "with different children. If you want to parent differently than your parents, you don’t need to throw out everything they did and do the opposite; that can be just as ineffective. Instead:
1.       Set your parenting goals.
2.       Have a plan to reach those goals.
3.       Learn skills to help you achieve those goals.
4.       Consistently follow your plan and master those skills.

The Parent’s Toolshop® guides you through this process, step-by-step, offering options from which you can choose based on your child and situation. 
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"The Universal Blueprint® for Building a Healthy Family"


This is our secret-sauce system you won't find anywhere else in the world --- and it's been tested and proven effective by over 100,000 parents an professionals. Here's how it works:

By knowing how to answer three simple questions, specific to your child and family, you can find your own ideal solution to every parenting challenge.  Just follow the "PASRR Effective Response Formula" taking up to five steps (in less than 3 sentences), all at once or one at a time. At each step choose the tools in that Toolset. There are 150+ tools in all, with 5 5-star tools you can use from preventin to intervention.

It's like having a GPS system for parenting (Guide to Parenting Success)!


You can find your own answer by using our secret-sauce system or look in the book index, which lists 1000+ common parenting issues, pointing to  insights and tips for preventing and responding to the most common parenting challenges almost every parent faces, including:
  • sibling squabbles
  • allowances
  • morning delays
  • homework
  • picky eaters
  • power struggles
  • messy rooms
  •  dating
  • temper tantrums  
  • chores               
  • driving
  • bedtime hassles 
  • lying        
  • sassy, smart–mouthed kids  
  • curfew 
  • friendship fall–outs    
  • A.D.H.D.
  • ... and MUCH MORE

All the Research-Based Information Screened & Weeded & Organized 4U!


This definitive guide was researched and developed over 15 years and proven successful in more than ten years of field tests.

It's teeming with the best of the best—more than 100 highly practical parenting skills in a step–by–step, easy–to–use format.
 
The result: a one-stop guide that contains every tool you need to learn and master the special language and actions of effective parenting—from toddlers to teens and beyond.

It’s now been used for over 30 years with tens of thousands of parents of diverse backgrounds, family-service professionals like therapists, and teachers, showing these solutions work, everyday, at home, at day care and in the classroom.

It is constantly being updated as new research emerges. So far it's all confirmed what the book already taught, providing additional insights as to why the tools are so effective. 

Note: Only books purchased here, direct from the publisher, are guaranteed to be the latest printing.

The Parent's Toolshop®: The Universal Blueprint® for Building a Healthy Family

Table of Contents


Forematter:
  • Table of Contents
  • Acknowledgments  
  • Introducing Your Toolshop® Tour Guide 

Chapter 1: Touring The Parent's Toolshop 
  • Another Parenting Book? 
  • What The Parent’s Toolshop® Does 
  • Suggestions for Use 

STEP A: FOUNDATION-BUILDING TOOLBOX

Chapter 2: Parenting Styles Toolset
  • Establishing a Common Language • What Are Our Parenting Goals? • 
  • Parenting Styles:
    • Over-controlling: Power Patrols & Perfectionistic Supervisors
    • Under-controlling: Over-Indulgers and Avoiders
    • Balanced
  • Parenting as a Team • Attitude Adjustment Tools • Practice • Detailed Answers 

Chapter 3: The Universal Blueprint®
  • Balancing Logic and Emotion 
  • Identifying the 5 Problem Types
  • The 5-Step PASRR Effective Response Formula 
  • Tips for Tots to Teens • Practice • Detailed Answers 

STEP B: PREVENTION TOOLBOX

Chapter 4: Self-Esteem Toolset
  • What Is Self-Esteem vs. Self-Image vs. Ego-Esteem? Which do you want to build? • Encouragement (builds self-esteem) Versus Praise (builds self-image) 
  • Self-Esteem Tools 
  • Is Praise Ever Okay? • Encourage Yourself • The Language of Encouragement • Practice • Possible Answers 

Chapter 5: Cooperation Toolset
  • The Difference Between Cooperation and Making Kids Mind 
  • The Long-Term Dangers of Quick Fixes and External Motivators & Tweaks to Foster Internal Self-Motivation
  • Cooperation Tools 
  • Practice• Possible Answers 

Chapter 6: Independence Toolset
  • The Balance of Independence 
  • Developing Responsibility: Ours TO Children not FOR Them & Theirs to Themselves and Others
  • Independence Tools 
  • Tips for Tots to Teens • Practice • Possible Answers 

STEP C: CHILD PROBLEM TOOLBOX
Taking over Child Problems

Chapter 7: F-A-X Listening Toolset
  • Peeling Onions • 
  • Fax Communication • Problem-Solving Styles • Communication Barriers
  • F-A-X Listening process • Step B1: Focus on Feelings 
  • Tips for Tots and Teens • Practice • Possible Answers 

Chapter 8: Problem-Solving Toolset
  • Step B2: Ask Helpful Questions 
  • Step B3: X-amine Possible Solutions 
    • When to Move from Step to Step •
    • Variations of Problem-Solving 
    • Problem-Solving Worksheet 
  • Common Child Problems (1: Emotions, Peers/Siblings)
  • Common Child Problem (2: School)
  • Practice • Possible Answers 

STEP D: PARENT PROBLEM TOOLBOX
Where We Are in the Universal Blueprint

Chapter 9: Keep Your Cool Toolset
  • What Is Anger/Stress? 
  • Steps of Constructive Anger/Stress Management • Resistance to Change 
  • Dealing with Others' Anger and Stress • Use an Anger Log 

Chapter 10: Clear Communication Toolset
  • Styles of Communication • Nonverbal Communication 
  • Clear Communication Tools 
  • Tips for Tots and Teens • Practice • Possible Answers 

STEP D: PROBLEM BEHAVIOR TOOLBOX

Chapter 11: PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior)
  • Identifying PU Problems (Development, Temperament, Biological, Lack Skills, Accident) 
  • Using the Universal Blueprint® to Redirect PU Behavior
  • Common PU Behaviors
  • Practice • Detailed Answers

Chapter 12: PO Toolset ("On Purpose" Misbehavior)
  • Identifying PO Problems 
  • The Four Types of PO Behavior • The Importance of the Universal Blueprint® 
  • PO Tools: Identifying and Redirecting Each of the 4 Goals
  • Important Points to Remember • PO Combination Problems • The Goals of Adult Misbehavior • Lying 
  • Practice • Detailed Answers

Chapter 13: Discipline Toolset
  • The Difference Between Punishment and Discipline 
  • Outdated Ineffective & Misused Tools
  • Effective Discipline Tools
  • Parent's Decision-Making Worksheet • Practice • Detailed Answers

STEP E: MAINTENANCE TOOLBOX

Chapter 14: Family Council Toolset
  • 'The Purpose of Family Councils • The Benefits of Family Councils • Family Council Roles • Format Options 
  • Getting Started—The First Few Meetings • Family Councils Use All the Tools • Family Council Trouble-Shooting Guide 
  • Agenda/Activity Ideas • Practice • Detailed Answers 

Chapter 15: Three C's: Consistency, Criticism, Confidence
  • Increasing Consistency 
  • Handling Criticism and Unhelpful Advice • Practice • Possible Answers 
  • Maintaining Your Confidence • Closing

APPENDIX
  • Glossary of Terms
  • Index
  • One-Page Summary of Entire Book and House Blueprint

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