You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family or co-workers. Most families and office teams are dysfunctional somehow & almost everyone knows someone they dread seeing. So, why not learn some skills for preventing them from getting under your skin and responding helpfully, when needed. Then you can be around them without draining your energy and leaving angry and hurt. This multi-media resourc...

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Bullying seems to be a problem for children and parents almost everywhere. Whether your child is the target, the bully or the bystander, you need to know what to say and do to be a part of the solution. Get this audio/video presentation and bonus report to discover what to do if your child is the bully, target, bystander, or is cyberbullied.

Here's a collection of our holiday-themed webinar and resources all in one place for you to download for free. Be sure to check out the many informative articles listed in the resource docs. Topics include: Taming the Holiday Gimmees, Using the Santa Threat, Shopping with Children, Embarrassing Gift Receiving Faux Pas, and more!

You see, back-talk is learned behavior, so the question is, where do children learn to talk like this? Do they know how to say what they want in an assertive, respectful way? And if they did, would they be heard?  While parents aren’t the only place children learn back talk, they are the biggest influence in modeling communication skills and stopping back talk, even if they didn’t start it. So here’s a resource p...

Would you like your children's first day of school this year to be positive like this? Would you like them to come home with happy smiles, excited about school and learning? The new school year will arrive before you now it! So start preparing for it now!   Get this multi-media resource package and hear a value-packed discussion between Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE and author of The Parents Toolshop®, other fam...

If bedtime battles are wearing you down and draining your patience, you’re not alone! Getting children to bed, happily and cooperatively, is one of the most common challenges parents face. Do your children dig in their heels and refuse to go to bed (or stay there)? Claim that monsters are hiding in their closets? Take the prize for lame excuses? Cling? Feel lonely and insecure? Get revved up but can't wind down?...

Holidays can be a great time for nurturing family bonds; however, these times can also pose special challenges for parents, like the gimmees, shopping nightmares, gift-receiving faux pas, and deciding if or how you want to celebrate Santa, with honesty or lies.

How many parents have you heard say they get no sleep the first few years after having a baby? It’s almost a given! The parents you won’t hear saying that are those that have a family bed. But family beds do have potential dangers, so is this a practice you should even consider? If you do choose to have a family bed, how can you do it safely and eventually get children sleeping on their own?

Listen to this album of audio recordings of a full-length live Parents Toolshop® class, including the proprietary Universal Blueprint® Parenting Success Formula and its 10 key skill sets. Download the mp3 files and listen to these anytime on any compatible device.

Discover The 6 Reasons Even Effective Parenting Tools Might Not Work, So You Can Head-Off Problems Before They Start And Trouble-Shoot Your Progress. Identify What Your Parenting Style Is And Whether It Is The Best Style For Reaching Your Parenting Goals. Improve Teamwork With Your Parenting Partners, So You Are Both On The Same Page And Children Can’t Manipulate You Against Each Other.

Discover the Universal Parenting Plan You Can Customize for Any Situation or Child. The 3 Questions You Must Ask in Every Parenting Challenge, to reveal the core issue that’s causing the problem. The 5 Steps for Responding Effectively To Any Parenting Problem, so you resolve the core issue and break any misbehavior cycles the first time you respond! No more repeating yourself, nagging, or lecturing!

Boost Your Children’s Self-Esteem, Without Creating “Praise Junkies” Or Big-Headed Egos. Increase Children’s Confidence And Resistance To Peer Pressure. Prevent And Diffuse Sibling Rivalry And Competition. Then They Will Get Along Better And You Can Stop Being A Referee In Their Squabbles And Fights.

Teach Children Life Skills, Good Behaviors & Values. Foster Independence & Responsibility In Children, So You Can Free Yourself From Being A Short-Order Cook And Maid. You’ll Be Amazed How Happy Your Children Are To Do These Chores Themselves, Usually Without Even Being Asked. Use Allowances Effectively — Without Paying Kids To Do Daily Chores!

Listen to this session, "Children’s Menu: How to Really Listen to Your Child" to learn how to:Show Children How To Understand Their Emotions And Express Their Feelings Appropriately And Skillfully. There Will Be Far Less Drama To Deal With And Children Will Feel Empowered To Conquer Their Fears And Insecurities.Guide Your Children To Reach Their Own Solutions And Decisions And See How Responsible They Really Can ...

Understand The Real Cause Of Stress And Anger, How To Prevent Or Eliminate It, And Channel The Energy In Constructive Ways. Reduce The Daily Stress In Each Family Member’s Life, By Making Individualized Anger & Stress Management Plans For You And Your Children. Slice Sass And Back-Talk From Your Child’s Vocabulary, By Clearly And Concisely Communicating Your Concerns, Without Lectures That Cause “Parent Deafness.”

Know The 4 Questions To Ask, To Discover Why Your Child Is Misbehaving. Avoid Common Gut Reactions That Escalate Problems Or Accidentally Give A Payoff. Understand The 9 Reasons Children Misbehave and the Best Response for Each. In a matter of seconds, you’ll know why your child is behaving that way and exactly what to say and do to break the cycle.

Avoid The Pitfalls Of Punishment, Which Cause Rebellion, Resentment, Revenge, And Sneaking Around, Becoming Tough Enough To Take Whatever Punishment You Can Dish Out. Know The “4 R’s” Of Using Discipline Effectively, So Children “Learn Their Lessons” Without Shame, Humiliation, Or Bad Feelings And Want To Behave Better! Discover The Best Four-Star Discipline Tools That Develop Self-Disciplined Children.

Learn how to have effective Family Councils, to Make Consensus Family Decisions, And Address And Resolve Problems Before They Ever Start. Know How To Use The Universal Blueprint® Success Formula With Adults, to Improve Every Relationship In Your Life. Feel Confident And Competent, Knowing That While You Might Not Avoid Every Parenting Challenge, You Have a Plan and Tools to Find Solutions for Your Family.

Does getting your children ready and out the door in the morning feel like running through molasses? Do you have to try waking your children multiple times before they finally get out of bed? Do they delay and drag along while getting dressed and ready? Are they often running so late they have to skip breakfast or are late for the bus? And then do they realize they’ve forgotten their lunch or homework and you hav...

Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE and special guest expert David Zidar, LISW-S will discuss the most common symptoms of ADD/ADHD, and offer practical skills parents can teach their children to help them improve problem areas such as: What can parents do to help improve their ADD child's difficulty in paying attention? How can parents help their ADHD child mange their hyperactivity? How can parents teach their ADD/AD...

Have you lost a loved one and are now caring for the children who were left behind? Are you struggling to parent children who are grieving, while still overwhelmed with your own grief? If so, experience this presentation full of encouragement, support and practical advice from a nationally-recognized parenting expert. This multimedia resource package includes:Audio and Video recordings of the 1-hour course. A 25-...

Which of these children sounds most like yours? "I don't like broccoli! No, I don't want to try it! I just want hot dogs." Or "Mmmm! I love baby trees! I They're yummy, yummy in my tummy! Can I have more?" If you have found your way to this page, then the first child probably sounds most like yours. Picky eaters and other food issues crop up for most parents at some time or another, especially when children are y...

Every parent hopes their children will be best buds with their siblings. Although sibling conflicts are inevitable, sibling rivalry is not. There are simply strategies you can use on a daily basis to prevent sibling conflicts, and a three-step process you can use when sibling strife arises to empower children how to resolve their own conflicts respectfully and independently.

Did you know there are only 4 types of tantrums? Discover why these 4 types of tantrums start and how to respond to each type, without reacting. We also discuss destructive tantrums, teen/adult tantrums, aggressive toddlers, and timeouts, plus several bonuses.

On this episode of Parents Tool Talk on our BlogTalkRadio show, Jody interviews Annie Zirkel, author of the book You’ll Thank Me Later: A Guide to Nurturing Gratitude in our Children (and why that matters). Annie offers wisdom and insights, such as the Five Stages of Gratitude," and practical tips for building an attitude of gratitude in children.

Though play is a greater priority for children than cleaning, they can learn to be tidy. In this teleseminar, you'll get practical tips for teaching children how to clean up after themselves, including their rooms; how to prevent or respond to cleaning distractions and delays; and how to help your children let go of old toys. We’ll also discuss chores, including pay for, and consequences for not, doing them.

If you would like to instill responsibility and values in your children about money management, including saving, budgeting and using allowances, listen to an hour-long interview by Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE, CTSS with with Alexis Neely of the Family Wealth Institute. It’s FREE!

Is corporal punishment an effective discipline tool? This teleseminar features Dr. Kerby Alvy and a discusion among parents and parenting professionals on topics that include: controversial legislation, what research says about the effectiveness of corporal punishment, and what discipline tools you want to have at your disposal.

This teleseminar explain why kids "misbehave" and how to respond, by applying the Universal Blueprint® Parenting Success Formula, exclusive to The Parent's Toolshop. You will learn: 3 Questions to Answer, to Discover Why a Child is Misbehaving; How to Avoid Reactions that Escalate Problems or Give Payoffs; The 5 Reasons Children Misbehave and the Best Response for Each; What causes discipline to work better or fail.

This audio gives you the Five Best Tools for getting children to cooperate the first time you ask and preventing and stopping power struggles. You'll also learn why children often do what you just told them not to do -- and how to prevent this. As a bonus, learn which tots will go through a no phase and which teens will rebel -- and how you can beat the odds.

Listen to this 20-minute interview by Nancy Lucas with Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE on releasing mommy guilt for the Perfect Parent (NOT!) summit.