Universal Blueprint® Resources

About the Universal Blueprint® Formula

Avoid Common Relationship Pitfalls with Custom-Designed Solutions
That Fit Your Needs, Using a Proven Step-by-Step Plan.

The Universal Blueprint® was Developed by Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE, CTSS

This once-secret step-by-step problem-solving system can support you in preventing common relationship challenges and plan an individualized effective responses to each relationship challenge in minutes! Use it to improve your relationships with children and adults, at home, at work, and in the world.

Since 1992, tens of thousands of people from diverse backgrounds have learned the Universal Blueprint® System, which teaches not only relationship basics, but even highly advanced concepts and skills many counselors, therapists and family-service professionals don’t even know!

Very Few People Have Identified Their Relationship Goals; Even Fewer Have a PLAN and the Skills They Need to Achieve Those Goals.

When it comes to the language and action skills that are part of effective relationship building, “Loving others may come naturally, but effective relationship skills are learned.“ (And most people do not learn the most-effective skills in their own families.)

You will get the best results from learning the using The Universal Blueprint® for Relationship Success if you:

Are open to ideas that long-term research have proven effective, but might be different than common practices and advice you might hear from family, friends, or non-credentialed self-proclaimed "experts."
Focus on identifying and resolving the root cause of problems, to get long-term results, instead of bandages on symptoms, which only give quick fixes.
Are willing to do some honest self-reflection and sincere skill building by learning this easy-to-use problem-solving system.

Once you have this system, you can prevent or resolve most common relationship challenges and improve every relationship in your life for a lifetime.

Relationships Aren't as Random as they Seem

When building relationships, there is not one “right” way to do something, but there are “more effective” and “less effective” ways to reach our relationship goals. Long-term research and consistent reports from thousands of individuals over 10-40 years can show you what is “effective.”

So the Universal Blueprint® Relationship Success Formula is not one universal solution that supposedly cures any relationship problem. It’s a system anyone can use (it’s universal) to find an effective response to any relationship challenge — or prevent them from happening in the first place!

There are a gazillion potential relationship challenges — and each one needs an individualized response that fits the needs of the people involved and the situation.

Do you feel overwhelmed thinking you need to be prepared to solve a gazillion potential relationship problems? Of course! So most of us say, “I’ll just figure things out as they happen.”

People might have ideas and opinions about how to build relationship, maybe even have pretty good skills, but they don’t really have a plan for preventing problems or responding to those that arise. They just use trial-and-error to figure things out.

Take this quick quiz: How many of these unexpected results have you experienced?

I try being flexible, but look wishy-washy instead.
I praise others, but they argue with my compliments!
I tell people not to do something, but they turn around and do it anyway!
When I try to negotiate a solution to a power struggle, I end up giving in!
When I set the rules, others seek and find loopholes.
When I do nice things for my children or others, they act like ungrateful brats and treat me like a maid, a chauffeur, a short-order cook and a doormat!
When I tell others to calm down, they get more upset!
When I try to get others to open up and talk, they clam up even more!
When I express my concerns, people roll their eyes and walk away.
I ignore the attention-seeking behavior and tantrums, like advice says I should, but then negative behavior gets so much worse I can’t ignore it any longer!
When I tell others their mean behavior hurts my feelings, they smile!

…and on and on it can go.

In each situation, do you know which tool could prevent or stop that situation from happening? (If you do or if you have never had any of these situations happen, then I’d like to recruit you as one of my personally-trained instructors — because these are all pretty common — even I have had them happen before!)

Do You Want to Feel Confident That What You Say and Do Today Will Help You Reach Your Relationship Goals?

The Universal Blueprint® Relationship Success Formula combines scientific research, ancient truths and common sense into a simple reliable user-friendly plan. This effective relationship building “system” offers you:

A universal plan for building effective relationships that
Meets the individual needs of each situation, people involved from diverse backgrounds and
Allows you to express your unique personal style, so you feel authentic using it.

Now I’m not asking you to try some “revolutionary, new” self-improvement techniques that I made up! People have been using some of these techniques for ages. Some self-improvement classes and resources have taught the skills and have long-term research over the past 40 years that show the skills work. The only thing I “invented” is the systematic way the tools are organized and how to teach people the skills — because you get the best results possible when they the skills are used in specific ways.

You Can Have The Relationships of Your Dreams. Even Strangers Will Take Notice of How You Effectively Handle Relationship Challenges

IMAGINE…

Experiencing fewer problems because you know the simple secrets for preventing the most common relationship challenges people face — that most people (and even some family-service professionals) don’t know.
When problems arise, you are calm and confident. You are patient, have a level head and can think straight.
Asking 4 questions and knowing, within minutes…or seconds…what would be an effective response.
Choosing the best tools for the job…using the tools skillfully, in an order that gets you positive, long-lasting results…and reaching your relationship goals.
Becoming the kind of person you’ve always admired and wanted to be.

Here's What Others Say About The Universal Blueprint®

Your ideas are consistent with other resources I’m familiar with, but there are some things in their books I disagree with and I get so frustrated picking and choosing and screening them. It is so nice to finally find a resource that has done that for me. I can completely trust that it is comprehensive and accurate. – –

Marla Hurst, parent, Adult Education teacher, OH

I do this program 5 days a week. Regular listeners to the program know that we have a lot of authors on the program. . . have for many years now. I don’t think I’ve ever seen – ever – any book as comprehensive. You can tell it’s a decade worth of work.

Dr. David McMillian, Host of Strategies for Living, KFLO-radio, Shreveport LA

The "Universal Blueprint®" is an innovative way to choose helpful responses to problems, including those in adult relationships! Most important, the advice is positive and trustworthy. I highly recommend reading this book.

Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., Author of Positive Discipline

I especially like the Universal Blueprint® formula. I can apply the skills in any situation and get the maximum use from them. I’ve used some of these skills separately before, but there always seems to be something that fell through the cracks. This pulls everything together.

Dorothy Scott, M.A.

This book is incredible. Every chapter is so comprehensive. I learn so much. When I finish a chapter I think the next one can’t possibly be as good – – but it always is! I’ve read many books by the likes of Scott Peck, Stephen Covey and Melody Beattie. The Parent’s Toolshop pulls it all together and shows you how to live these revelations. This book is not just about parenting.

Jeff Smith, OH

At work, I have weekly, quarterly, and yearly goals. To achieve these goals, I develop a plan that I think (and hope) will work. I attend workshops, seminars, and classes to learn better methods to work my plan. The Universal Blueprint® formula has the same effect on working my parenting plan.

Rich Munn, OH

I think you have done a wonderful job with this material. The part of the material that I responded to first was the model. It is a good way to organize the material. I think students, workshop participants, and readers in general will find it a helpful guide for selecting which materials relate to specific kinds of situations. A model, a map, a guide, an organizer, a conceptual framework—by whatever name one might want to call it, it will be helpful to parents who seek to access the wide, wide world of parenting ideas

Sandra Taylor, MSW, Assistant Professor, Dept. of Sociology, Anthropology, and Social Work, University of Dayton

There’s so much about The Universal Blueprint® that I like. As a parent, it is so easy to react to problems. This offers so many healthy alternatives. As a counselor, I like the way I can apply the process to all relationships. There were so many things that even as a therapist, with all the training I’ve had, that I didn’t realize—like the myths about timeouts. I’ve been giving the same kind of advice lots of other professionals give—and assumed it must be right, because so many people believed it. This was a real eye-opener.

Ken Rogiers, M.A., Lighthouse Christian Counseling, Inc., OH|

The simplistic brilliance of the Universal Blueprint® formula takes you by surprise once you start realizing that these tools really do make a difference. Not all at once but, day by day, situation by situation, that you handle a little or a lot, differently from before. It all adds up to a whole new way of lowering stress in your life, as well as those around you.

Don Coterel, OH

When I first heard of the Universal Blueprint, I thought, “Is this for real? It is too good to be true!” But I know from taking Jody’s class (twice!) that all the statements are true and her resources are fabulous!

Kay Lynch, Centerville, OH

Having the Universal Blueprint® on one page is brilliant! Jody has easy ways to learn and remember like acronyms and dances. It's taken a lifetime for her to come up with that and I love that we can reap the benefits of it.

Anjali Brannon, Beavercreek, OH

I love the Universal Blueprint®. It's not some nebulous idea of things the way they should be or you want them to be. It's all nice and black and white on paper. I can always go back to it to figure out where I've been and where I want to go.

Rachel Fuller, Beavercreek, OH

Your book is fantastic! It makes so much sense! The "blueprint" form of your book is ideal! What relationship would not be improved by this respectful, yet straight forward, approach? I can't put the book down for long......what a gift this is!

Lauri Orr, Oregon

This is the most complete practical guide to human interaction I've ever read!

Wendy Adams

Learn the Universal Blueprint® Relationship Success Formula Your Way. You Decide How to Learn, How Much to Learn and Where to Learn.

Relationship Toolshop® offers a wide variety of resources for relationships with children and adults, for every person and every budget. Just check out the resources listed below.

Online Courses that Teach the ENTIRE System

All "T.I.P.S.: Tools for Improving Parenting Success" courses teach you our proprietary system. You can choose from a short overview, to an independent study, to an in-depth comprehensive course with optional coaching and/or support. The materials provided in these courses are available "ala carte," too. See next section below.

Introductory T.I.P.S.

(Jump Start Guide book + Preventing Misbehavior Video)

Need a few proven parenting tools to start getting immediate results? This program will show you how to use some of the Top Five-Star Tools every parent needs to know and use, so you can start preventing needless challenges with your children and parenting partners.

In this two-hour video of a live introductory program, you will discover how to get on the same page as your parenting partners, prevent misbehavior like power struggles, discipline effectively and empower your children to solve problems affecting them, like sibling squabbles and homework.

This program is designed for parents who want a quick start that will reduce family stress TODAY!

Get Details HERE

Basic T.I.P.S.

(Introductory T.I.P.S. + Lunch & Learn Audio Album)

Want a proven parenting plan to personalize to your needs? Like to learn on your own time and at your own pace? Then attend this intermediate, independent training program, which shows you how to use the Universal Blueprint® Parenting Success System to prevent and respond helpfully to the challenges you are facing today.

Just read a chapter of The Parents Toolshop® Quick Start Guidebook, listen to one of ten one-hour audio recordings of a live Parents Toolshop® full-length class, and complete optional practice exercises, to apply what you learn to your family.

You can even opt to receive review/feedback of your answers.If you are a parent who’s too busy to attend a live class, but love to read books or listen to audiobooks to learn, then this program is for you!

(Continuing education units (CEUs) may be available for social workers, counselors, MFTs, CFLEs, and foster parents.)

Get Details HERE

Advanced T.I.P.S.

(Intro + Basic + both Books & Action Guides + Videos + optional Support)

This is THE absolute-best Parent's Toolshop® course that gets the most outstanding, consistent results. That's because you are taken by the hand and shown exactly what to say and do to get the results you want. It's the most fun, edu-taining way to learn the Universal Blueprint® system that’s both advanced yet easy to digest and process.

Completing each of the 15 modules involves reading a chapter of the comprehensive award-winning book, The Parent's Toolshop®, watching a one-hour video of a live class whenever it's convenient for you, and completing a master review cheat sheet and optional practice exercises to apply what you are learning to your family.

You can even attend optional live weekly webinars for personalized support and coaching. This helps you be accountable, process and apply what you are learning, ask questions, and get personalized coaching to help you master the skills. You'll even discover how to leverage all you learn to improve all your relationships, even those with other adults! If you want to transform your parenting, family and life, this is the course to take.

(Continuing education units (CEUs) may be available for social workers, counselors, MFTs, CFLEs, and foster parents.)

Get Details HERE

Universal Blueprint® Resources

Free

7 Keys to Parenting Success (FREE e-book download)

UNLOCK the Secrets to Parenting Success:7 Keys to Building Healthy Family Relationships --- from the Foundation Up! Parenting is quite possibly the most challenging job on earth; it is certainly the most important. It’s also one of the only jobs that involves being totally responsible for taking care of another human being with no required training, preparation or experience! That’s why, when problems arise, you...